“She looks great” – Mommy of a Miracle

As a parent to a child with a brain injury, we cringe when we hear “she/he looks great”. Unlike many other disabilities a brain injury is invisible. It is both a blessing and a curse.

When I share a picture of Isabella and I hear “she looks great” I automatically feel the need to explain all that a picture doesn’t show. Brain injuries are so deceiving because they are invisible. Seeing Isabella in a picture you wouldn’t know the constant struggle that she has. Isabella looks like a beautiful happy little girl. Isabella has her moments but truly her life is a constant struggle.

What you don’t see in a picture is the debilitating anxiety that prevents Isabella from being able to function. You won’t see the constant internal struggle Isabella has to control her own body and mind. That struggle has led to the low self-esteem that can’t be seen. In a picture you don’t see the moment to moment struggle to be safe.

What you see in a picture is a beautiful little girl who in that very second is happy and/or smiling. Just because Isabella looks great in that moment doesn’t mean that her brain is better. It simply means that in that moment she was happy. If only all things were as they seem.

“Just because a person smiles all the time, doesn’t mean their life is perfect, that smile is a symbol of hope and strength” Lauryn Hill

kristin and isabelle aug 2015Guest Blogger, Kristin Olliney-Apruzzese, is the mother of 9-year-old Isabella, who suffered sudden acute encephalitis when she was just 4. Kristin’s bi-monthly blog, Mommy of a Miracle, talks about the trials and joys of raising a brain injury survivor.

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One thought on ““She looks great” – Mommy of a Miracle

  1. Kushla

    I know exactly what this mother is saying. My daughter got ADEM at 4. She is turning 8 next week and we have daily struggles…. just because she is happy and plays people think and accuse me of making things up.. they don’t see the truth and the medication and AL the struggles.



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